So yesterday I went to my friends wedding where there were loads of people that me and DH knew and I would say the vast majority of those also know that we have had a tfmr.
I spent the whole day with people telling me I look huge and there eyes popping out on stalks when I said I had another 9 weeks to go. Which ok I feel big but it's still rude to basically imply I'm fat. But the worst that I had a lot of was "do you know what you're having?" Yes another girl....cue sad face and awww you must have done something wrong.....next time trying have sex in a different position and you might get a boy.
What the fuck??? I didn't do anything wrong....me and DH had given up TTC and we actually that month had sex because we enjoyed it. Because we wanted to bonk for bloody England. We weren't trying of one gender or another. We weren't even bloody trying....(well obviously we were hopeful otherwise we woul have used precautions).
The thing is today I'm feeling really down about it. I know that people have a real sense of gender disappointment and j get that. It can't be helped, and I wouldn't be cross with anyone that does. But what I'm down about it the implication that we did somehing "wrong" to get another girl. That implies we did "something wrong" to get an incomplete baby last time....I feel so fucking guilty now. Rationally I know that they're just saying twatish things without thinking but I'm feeling just ever so slightly shit about it all now.
Please tell me if I'm reading too much into it, or bein overtly sensitive. I don't mind if I am, j just need to vent. Sorry for the swearing. Just want to cry but can't because DH will want to know why and then if have to explain it to him and whilst I know he would so his best to understand he wouldn't really.
G x
I spent the whole day with people telling me I look huge and there eyes popping out on stalks when I said I had another 9 weeks to go. Which ok I feel big but it's still rude to basically imply I'm fat. But the worst that I had a lot of was "do you know what you're having?" Yes another girl....cue sad face and awww you must have done something wrong.....next time trying have sex in a different position and you might get a boy.
What the fuck??? I didn't do anything wrong....me and DH had given up TTC and we actually that month had sex because we enjoyed it. Because we wanted to bonk for bloody England. We weren't trying of one gender or another. We weren't even bloody trying....(well obviously we were hopeful otherwise we woul have used precautions).
The thing is today I'm feeling really down about it. I know that people have a real sense of gender disappointment and j get that. It can't be helped, and I wouldn't be cross with anyone that does. But what I'm down about it the implication that we did somehing "wrong" to get another girl. That implies we did "something wrong" to get an incomplete baby last time....I feel so fucking guilty now. Rationally I know that they're just saying twatish things without thinking but I'm feeling just ever so slightly shit about it all now.
Please tell me if I'm reading too much into it, or bein overtly sensitive. I don't mind if I am, j just need to vent. Sorry for the swearing. Just want to cry but can't because DH will want to know why and then if have to explain it to him and whilst I know he would so his best to understand he wouldn't really.
G x